The Development of Girls
So often, we speak of girls’ education and the developmental phases that girls face as they grow and develop. These become more apparent, typically, when our girls hit a bump in the journey, and suddenly, things feel different. This is usually tied to friendship, when girls shift in their groups, or practice their autonomy and experiment with different “parts” of their personalities to develop their identity. It can also happen when there are shifts at home in the family dynamic, and a child assumes a more independent role. We have also seen this happen cognitively, as children experiment and take Responsible Risks (one of the Habits of Mind), to argue a point critically (you may relate to this when it is time for pocket money…); or, as they develop more abstract thinking and start to grapple with new concepts which are more challenging and can, at times, cause frustration.
The journey is quite normal, and while it is quite hard as a parent to remain calm in these moments, particularly when you may feel hurt, anxious or worried, it is an important phase of development that we are taking with your daughters; in partnership.
This week, we would like to share some recommended reading with you, which is focused on the development of girls and the social dynamics of raising girls. We hope that you enjoy them, perhaps over one of the long weekends with some hot chocolate and a blanket .
Marisa Di Terlizzi
Queen Bees and Wannabees by Rosalind Wiseman
Synopsis from www.bookbrowse.com
Parents Can Make A Difference In Girl World
Do you feel as though your adolescent daughter exists in a different world, speaking a different language and living by different laws? She does.
This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls’ friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves.
Untangled by Dr Lisa Damour
Synopsis from www.goodreads.com
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Lisa Damour, Ph.D., director of the internationally renowned Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain on the teenage years and shows why your daughter’s erratic and confusing behavior is actually healthy, necessary, and natural. Untangled explains what’s going on, prepares parents for what’s to come, and lets them know when it’s time to worry.
The Curse of the Good Girl by Rachel Simmons
Synopsis from www.amazon.com
Bestselling author of Odd Girl Out, Rachel Simmons exposes the myth of the Good Girl, freeing girls from its impossible standards and encouraging them to embrace their real selves
In The Curse of the Good Girl, bestselling author Rachel Simmons argues that in lionizing the Good Girl we are teaching girls to embrace a version of selfhood that sharply curtails their power and potential. Unerringly nice, polite, modest, and selfless, the Good Girl is a paradigm so narrowly defined that it’s unachievable. When girls inevitably fail to live up-experiencing conflicts with peers, making mistakes in the classroom or on the playing field-they are paralyzed by self-criticism, stunting the growth of vital skills and habits. Simmons traces the poisonous impact of Good Girl pressure on development and provides a strategy to reverse the tide. At once expository and prescriptive, The Curse of the Good Girl is a call to arms from a new front in female empowerment.